Restricting your feelings

Hey lovelys! One thing i actually believe in so much it talking to other people about feelings. I think too many people keep worries and anxiety to themselves and don't tell people how they're feeling and it leads to really bad problems. You know the old saying, a problem shared is a problem halved and to some extent it really is. Some people are super secretive about their problems and feel like they can't talk to anyone about them but the thing is you can.  Whether there is a friend you trust or a family member or a teacher or councilor there is always someone willing to listen to you and be able to come up with a solution. There was a problem I was keeping to myself for so long and I didn't want to tell anyone about it because I was worried they'd laugh because it isn't exactly an everyday problem and I guess it's a little embarrassing to some people however once I got a grip and realized my friends wouldn't judge me,  I told my closest friends and they were totally cool. Like they didn't even care at all. I was so relieved I felt as if a massive weight had been taken off my shoulders and I was so much more relaxed about it. Telling people about problems has always been my motto, ever since I was about fourteen and I decided that all this keeping to myself business was making everything worse and from then on, whenever I'm worried or if somethings bothering me I'll tell that person what's up. Not in a beefy way of course but if someone is making me feel bad  or a situation is really getting me down I'll say something because there is no point in me suffering in silence when a conflict could be resolved with a bit of communication and a heart to heart.  If a problem is getting to you, take it from me, it is so much better to get it off your chest/ tell that person/ sort that thing out that sit there and worry yourself to death about it.

"A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything." It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!"

That is my challenge for you guys this week then, I haven't set you an little thoughts challenge for ages so here's your one for you. If you have problem then put your glass down. Talk to the person whose getting you down. Makeup with your friend. Talk to your mum again. Let go of your burdens as early as possible and sort things out now before they become to much.


If you just want to talk to someone and you don't want to talk to a family member or feel like no one will understand use this site http://blahtherapy.com/chat-hub/ You  can choose to be a venter and talk to a stranger who is willing to listen to you and see if they have anything you could benefit from. Or you can email me at smitheh01@gmail.com or send me an anon on tumblr http://eleanorasdfghjkl.tumblr.com/ if you want to be anonymous.

Untill next time guys!
Eleanor x